Boundaries: Why you need them?
How many times have you wanted to say “No” to someone but didn’t. Why? We all want to be liked and accepted. Now, you are so over committed there is no time for yourself and you to feel resentful. How did this happen? You need to establish BOUNDARIES. Boundaries are drawing a line in the sand. Boundaries define who you are and boundaries tell other how you want to be treated.
Good boundaries prevent you from becoming resentful and irritated; prevent you from feeling overwhelmed, burned out, overworked, exhausted, and drained as you try to keep up. Your self-esteem takes a nose dive; depression starts to set in mixed with bouts of anxiety.
Learn how to say ‘No’ without feeling guilty.
- Start practicing boundary-setting by creating small boundaries.
- Know yourself means connecting with your needs; your beliefs; and your feelings.
- This will help you to clearly define your needs when your boundaries are crossed.
- Having healthy boundaries doesn’t mean say ‘No’ to everything, but be selective.
- Let go of judgment about yourself.
- Do not take on the emotions of others.
- Don’t be pressured when asked to do something. Say, “let me think about it and get back to you.”
- Pay attention to activities and people who drain you and those who energize you.
- Pause when you feel the urge to say ‘Yes’. Check in with yourself: “What are you feeling?” “What do you need?”
- Get clear on what you value and desire.
For appointments, call 403 915 4844. First session free, subsequent sessions $50.00
I am providing the community with free 1 hour workshops every third Monday, at 6:00 pm, at the Fort Macleod Public Library. Check my website for dates, time, and topics.
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